Thursday, December 20, 2012

Amid grief over a tragedy, can we talk?


I used to work with someone who would on rare occasions step into my office and ask, “Can we talk?” I immediately knew something was seriously amiss and therefore needed to be addressed in order to avoid potentially disastrous consequences.

One of those moments has come for our nation. We seemed to have avoided the discussion after the 13 were killed at Columbine in 1999, and the 32 at Virginia Tech in 2007, and the 13 at Ft. Hood in 2009, and the 6 in Tucson in 2011, and in 2012 the 12 in Aurora, Colorado, the 6 at the Sikh temple in Oak Creek, Wisconsin, and the 2 at the shopping mall in Oregon.

In the aftermath of the 26 children and adults killed at a Connecticut elementary school, people are asking, “When is enough, enough? Can we talk?”

The killings happen in our schools, hospitals, houses of worship, and shopping malls. No place is safe.

And we are fortunate more have not been slain. Indeed, on the same day as the Connecticut massacre, an 18 year old Bartlesville, Oklahoma man was arrested for allegedly attempting to lure students at his high school into the auditorium where he planned to chain the doors shut and start shooting. On the day after the Connecticut murders, a man opened fire at a hospital in Birmingham, Alabama, wounding a police officer and two others before being killed by another police officer. That same weekend, a man fired 50 gun shots in the parking lot of a crowded Newport Beach, California shopping mall, while in Indiana a man who owns 47 guns was arrested for allegedly threatening to kill as many people as he could at a public school.

This is not a rural problem or a city problem: It’s everyone’s problem. Tom Mauser, whose 15 year old son was killed at Columbine High School in 1999, spoke last July of his futile efforts as an activist against such violence. “There was a time when I felt a certain guilt,” he said. “I’d ask, ‘Why can’t I do more about this? Why haven’t I dedicated myself more to it?’ But I’ll be damned if I’m going to put it all on my shoulders. This is all our problem.”

He’s right: It’s our problem. And we must address it.

Violence seems to be woven into the fabric of our culture: From video games to movies, we ingest a steady, daily diet of it. But political and cultural commentator, David Brooks, speaking on “Meet the Press,” cited studies showing that the perpetrators of these mass killings don’t seem to be spurred by violent video games or films. “It’s a psychological problem, not a sociological one,” Brooks said.

Why these tragic events are frequently a part of the public scene is no mystery: It’s a matter of statistics. There are some 300 million firearms in the US. Consider that $1.6 billion has been cut from state mental health budgets, which includes budgets for mental health services. Those numbers equate to a simple formula: The less help available to mentally troubled people, multiplied by the availability of guns, including assault weapons with high capacity magazines, equals the proliferation of horrific events like the ones we have been witnessing. It’s inevitable.

The objection that even under the best of circumstances, with proper background checks on purchased weapons and mental health care more available, what happened in Connecticut and other places still could have happened, may be true but should not deter us from enforcing more effective regulations that help safeguard the public by trying to keep weapons out of the hands of those who are mentally incapable of properly and sensibly handling them.

The conversation won’t be easy, but it’s necessary, because violence has and always will be an ever present reality and therefore must be checked.

In the meantime, let us pause and pray, weeping with those who weep, comforting the brokenhearted, protecting the innocent, and looking with hope to the Healer, whose birthday we celebrate December 25.

And as we do, remember what Fred Rogers’ mother would tell him when he saw frightening things in the news. “Look for the helpers,” she would say. “You will always find people who are helping.”

Let’s be those helpers as we sit down together. We need to talk.




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